"I want an adoring family, encouraging friends and empathetic relatives."
This is what all of us wish for.
And then we have two viruses:
1. Nafs (effects: jealousy, arrogance, temper, showoff, ego et cetera)
2. Satan (effects: fights, negative thoughts, backbiting et cetera)
Two Antiviruses:
1. Forgive
2. Forget
Two handling utilities:
1. Silence
2. Patience
Allah blessed us with family, friends, and relatives to make us feel "we are not alone".
They are the initial partners of your good times and bad times. Even sharing love & peace with them is a reward in itself. We need to learn to forgive each other. Okay, it might not be as easy as I think to forgive and forget but the reward for this will be much more than I can ever imagine.
I hope you all know. There was a Jewish neighbor who threw garbage in front of Rasoolullah ﷺ's door every day. The day she did not, the Prophetﷺ went to make sure she was in good health. We are blessed to be the ummah of Rasoolullah ﷺ. If we don't take lessons from his life and act like a believer then who'll?!
Do you know the lady who ate the flesh of Rasoolullah ﷺ's paternal uncle Hamza Radi Allahu Tala Anha' (chacha) in the battle of Uhud, she was forgiven when she expressed her love for Islam and apologized to Rasoolullah ﷺ! Who are we to not forgive each other for our silly worldly disputes!
We may not be able to forget what we have been through but holding grudges won't help instead take it as a lesson and be prepared for the next time not to take revenge but to stay strong and defend yourself. When we are hurt by someone, we must either talk to that someone or to the Creator(Al-Adl, The Just; Al-Azeez, The Mighty; Al-Muqeet, The Sustainer) of that someone. If we make it a habit and avoid backbiting and gossiping then we can save our rewards and please Allah.
When you feel like 'you need to share it with someone' then share it with someone who is wise, positive and fears Allah. There are times when you see something wrong and you want people to understand you but being straight forward would hurt their sentiments. For this my mama(mamma's brother) told me a story that is as follows:
Once Imam Hussain Radi Allahu Tala Anha saw an old man performing ablution incorrectly. Imam Hussain Radi Allahu Tala Anha asked the old man "Will you please guide me if I make a mistake while performing ablution?" The old man replied: "Sure." when Imam Hussain Radi Allahu Tala Anha performed ablution, the old man realized his mistake. This is how Imam Hussain Radi Allahu Tala Anha made him realize his mistake without hurting his sentiments.
P.S. after eight years, I have found this blog and it's archives. This was one of my drafts. I chose to post it and show some to my younger self for the heart she has today.
